PSYCHOLOGY AT HARLEY STREET – PSYCHOTHERAPY AT HARLEY STREET
There are a number of reasons why people seek out individual and group therapy. These reasons may be varied, but we can assure you that because the experience is completely subjective you will naturally feel alone and feel like no one understands. We thrive on creating a safe place to explore your deepest thoughts and feelings where your therapist will be authentic enough to challenge you to grow when you are stuck in particular biases, behaviours and belief systems that are not working for you. We do not provide a generic service and the therapists you will work with are real enough to have worked on their own biases and beliefs and ensure that this experience is unique and irreplicable. As your relationship builds with your therapist, therapy naturally provides a framework where you can work towards creating the life you desire and deserve. It is essential that you feel you are ready to engage in therapy as this is a unique opportunity for your therapist to share in your lived world and guide you to face up to your limitations and take control of your life. This is an investment in yourself which will trickle down into all areas of your life. It is natural to fear change, however by making an active conscious choice in this change will empower you beyond your imagination. There is something truly healing that occurs when you can feel understood in an atmosphere of safety and acceptance.
I invite you to use the full range of free resources available on this website with the guarantee that much of the content will challenge and alter your perception on life towards the positive. Have the opportunity to meet our therapists and ensure that this is the first step towards living the life you have always imagined and deserved.
Chronic Emotional Distress
In contacting us at Harley Street Psychology, it is safe to assume that there must be significant or chronic emotional distress plaguing your life or that of a loved one. Although experiencing emotional distress and pain is part of being human, it is unnecessary to endure severe long-standing distress which no doubt is impairing your daily life and relationships. You unconsciously make the connection that therapy will bring about more emotional pain and because you feel so alone in your pain, in addition to shame and guilt more often than not, this becomes a deterrent to finding assistance. You need to ask yourself a very real question: Is this pain and emotional distress stopping me from achieving the life I deserve to lead?
Relationships can be a source of great inspiration and love, however they too can contribute to your emotional distress. This is a sign of your inability to navigate through your relationship WITH your partner/loved one, and instead it is you against them every step of the way. These troubled relationships may involve a spouse, parent, child, co-worker or significant other, but there does not have to be continuity in this disrupt. Taking part in marriage therapy or relationship therapy will provide you the opportunity to understand the root of the problem. We most certainly have the tools you need to correct these relationships, but the onus is on you to make the necessary choice to face this.
Families should be about togetherness, love, joy, warmth and trust. However, it appears that society places less value in the meaning of family. Life is already difficult enough with other relationships, and family concerns should be the least of your worries. If your family is facing a difficult time, family therapy would be an empowering medium to help you overcome such difficulties. It is essential to ensure that your family life is in a state of harmony or at least working towards a state of balance. A balanced family life is a major key in your success in this world through providing emotional and mental support when most needed.
Sexual dissatisfaction and dysfunction are a growing problem in our society and these common problems can be embarrassing to talk about. Sex and sexuality are two areas in anyones life which are not essentially taught to us, in the same way we learn to drive a car. Regardless of where this is in the world there may be a potential stigma attached to its discussion. We at Harley Street Psychology ensure that individuals and couples will make substantial progress in obtaining the most enjoyable experience from their sexual functioning and future experiences.
Emotional distress or relationship problems are often associated with the coping mechanisms we have learned, such as excessive shyness, weak communication, lack of assertiveness, or poor anger management. We will enable you to acquire and strengthen the skills that can benefit many of the most important areas of your life. This will assist you in achieving your full potential. We like to look at therapy as life enhancing, where any deficit in your life can be attended to in a manner which is constructive and lucrative in assisting you achieve your higher purpose in life
Establishing a greater sense of meaning and purpose in your life, will always make you feel exhilarated and passionate about facing life on a daily basis. Obstacles and the givens in life often provide us with stumbling blocks and difficulties we at times have no idea how to navigate. Psychological therapy with us can help you overcome these snags, traps and dilemmas that have kept you from reaching your goals and becoming the person you want to be. If you believe that life should be more than what you are experiencing, then it is clear that more work needs to be done on a level of personal growth. Be mindful in considering therapy as an option in aiding you to achieve this feeling of momentum, as it is an investment in your well-being in achieving a life filled with deeper personal satisfaction.
Powerful attachment to others is a unique human experience. Enduring breaks in these attachments — through death or separation — can result in great emotional pain. You will naturally feel unbalanced when this process occurs and often have various emotions that arise which can cause you to be in great emotional turmoil. It is only once you have allowed ourselves the appropriate amount of time to digest these emotions and their meanings that you will balance yourself to a place of harmony and equilibrium. Learning how to cope with loss and endings, you will find a new perspective on life and understand how to embrace life and be more in the moment.
Victim of Trauma or Abuse
Victimisation or any form of sexual abuse or violence can overwhelm your capacity to cope and leave emotional scars that impair your ability to live a normal life. No one should have to endure any of these emotionally scaring experiences, however they do occur. Safety is often at the forefront of our minds when needing a place to digest the emotions attached to what has happened to us. Harley Street Psychology provides a confidential and safe arena to discuss these issues with care and empathic support. We will focus on healing the wound caused by the trauma and assist you in being able to take charge of your life. This experience will empower you to move forward in your life.
A Clinical Disorder
Mental disorders or psychological conditions can always be ameliorated through therapy. Such disorders may become central to your existence and embed themselves into feeling that they have meaning and purpose in your life. In many instances they actually become a crutch in dealing with the world which contributes to the difficulty in getting rid of them. These disorders and conditions disable your potential and capacity to grow. Our broad range of knowledge in various disorders and conditions will aid in your journey of understanding, moving you to a place where you WILL gain a greater sense of control and become empowered to face life in a different manner.
It Is Central To Our Ethos To Push You To Achieve The Most Successful And Invigorating Life You Can Create.
What Happens during Individual therapy?
The therapeutic process varies depending on the orientation of the therapist. It also differs for each individual client depending on the client’s circumstances. However, there are some common aspects of therapy that you are likely to experience when you enter a therapeutic relationship.
To begin with, your first session with a therapist should be a consultation session. This consultation does not commit you to working with the therapist. The goals in the consultation are to find out whether psychotherapy would be useful to you and whether this particular therapist is likely to be helpful. During this session, you may want to discuss with the therapist any values that are particularly important to you. If your therapist’s views are very different from yours, you may want to find a more compatible therapist.
The first session is a time for you to determine whether you will feel comfortable, confident, and motivated in working with this particular therapist. You should also feel that you can trust and respect your therapist and that your therapist is understanding of your situation.
This is also the time for the therapist to decide whether he or she is a good match for you. At times, a therapist may refer you to another therapist who may be able to work better with you.
After you’ve decided to work with a particular therapist, the next few sessions are usually devoted to talking about the circumstances that have brought you to therapy. Generally, during this time (assessment) your therapist will be asking quite specific questions about the concerns or challenges causing your distress and about when and where they occur.
Assessment also can be done through the use of questionnaires or tests. A therapist can use a variety of techniques in assessment. Initial assessments are used to get therapy started; however, a good therapist will continue to assess a client’s issues throughout therapy and change the direction of therapy, if needed.
After the initial assessment stage, the rest of therapy is devoted to helping you gain insight and solve current concerns and/or help you change the emotions, thoughts, and/or behaviours that you want to change. The goals you bring to therapy are the gist of the therapeutic process. How these goals are accomplished depends a great deal on both the orientation of the therapist and the techniques the therapist may use with you.
Family therapy can be a wonderful experience where children and adults blossom. If there is unresolved conflict, hurt feelings, or tension in the household, family therapy can help.
The purpose of the family unit is to provide support, love and safety for its members. When families face special challenges, family members may need help to avoid or reverse destructive patterns. Family therapy addresses these challenges – divorce, remarriage, additions or losses in family membership, violence, grief, illness, addiction and life-style issues. Working together in therapy, families can help reduce the hurt, foster positive interactions and allow trust to develop. Even long-standing hostility or conflict may be replaced with positive, nurturing behaviours. Gently, and with mutual respect, family members can learn to support and feel safe with each other.
Family therapy provides an opportunity for all family members to come together for mutual support and re-integration. Too often families splinter because they don’t have this arena where they devote time to working through family issues. As your therapist my purpose is to ask questions, to support the family and to insure that everyone is heard. Members working together on their difficulties often find new ways to participate as a family. In this setting, issues can be honestly addressed and family living improved.
Family problems can be a reflection of the parental relationship and it is not unusual for children to misbehave when there is strife between the parents. On the other hand, parents may fight more frequently due to their child’s difficulties. Family therapy is helpful because the connections between these events become clearer. Parents then learn different parenting skills and can learn to work together as a team.
By uncovering the needs and true feelings of various family members, empathy is developed. Conflicting needs are now out in the open where they can be understood, discussed and resolved. The family begins to function better, self-esteem is maintained and new, healthier ways of dealing with others become a part of the family repertoire.
Make a commitment to your family. Get them involved in family therapy and start the process of family healing.
Couples Therapy/Sex Therapy
Sometimes people have problems communicating and handling conflict with their significant other. Marriage therapy or relationship therapy helps couples work through their emotional, sexual, financial, or other types of problems. Then they often find better ways of being with each other. Whether you want to improve a good relationship, or want to save a very troubled one, marriage therapy can make a significant contribution.
Working with couples often allows for a greater understanding and improved communication. It may allow for each individual to gain clarity about their needs and desires, as well as ways that they can change their behaviour to improve their level of satisfaction in the relationship.
Marriage therapy gives couples the tools to achieve honest, respectful, two-way communication that actually prevents arguments. You can replace resentment with respect – replace arguments with caring conversations. New skills allow you to build intimacy without sacrificing your individual identities.
Marriage therapy focuses on clearing past issues, so you can concentrate on improving your present situation. Working individually and together, you can heal old wounds, address conflicting priorities and preferences, and bring balance back into your lives. Habitual patterns of negative interaction can be replaced by fresh and love-enhancing behaviour.
Common areas that marriage therapy or couples therapy can help fix: communication difficulties, intimacy problems, sexual issues, financial conflicts, decreased fun in the relationship, infidelity problems, domestic conflict/frequent fighting, blending family/step-family problems, parenting issues, anger issues, power/control problems, lack of mutual respect, career/work conflicts, and overall decreased satisfaction within the relationship.
In today’s society, any sort of couple may want to seek help with their relationship. They could be married or “involved,” straight or gay.
If you are thinking about joining one of the groups , here are some thoughts about how groups can help you grow and change for the better, and how you can get the most out of this life changing experience you are about to embark on.
How Does Group Therapy Work?
Groups can be as small as three or four people, but group therapy sessions generally involve around seven to twelve individuals (although it is possible to have more participants). The group typically meets once or twice each week for an hour and a half. The groups we offer have a minimum of 4 and a maximum of 8 individuals partaking at any one time.
The minimum number of group therapy sessions is usually around six, but a full year of sessions is more common. Sessions may either be open or closed. In open sessions, new participants are welcome to join at any time. In a closed group, only a core group of members are invited to participate. You are more than welcome to discuss this further to identify which type of group would be most beneficial for you.
So what does a typical group therapy session look like? In many cases, the group will meet in a room where the chairs are arranged in a large circle so that each member can see every other person in the group. A session might begin with each member of the group introducing themselves and sharing why they are in group therapy, or members might share their experiences and progress since the last meeting.
The specific manner in which the session is conducted depends largely on the goals of the group and the style of the therapist. Some therapists might encourage a more free-form style of dialogue, where each member participates as he or she sees fit. Other therapists might have a specific plan for each session that might include having clients practice new skills with other members of the group.
The Effectiveness of Group Therapy
Group therapy can be very effective, especially in certain situations. Studies have shown that group therapy can be an effective treatment choice for depression and traumatic stress.
Reasons to Use Group Therapy
The key advantages of group therapy include:
Group therapy allows people to receive the support and encouragement of the other members of the group. People participating in the group are able to see that there are others going through the same thing, which can help them feel less alone.
Group members can serve as role models to other members of the group. By seeing someone who is successfully coping with a problem, other members of the group can see that there is hope and recovery is possible. As each person progresses, they can in turn serve as a role model and support figure for others. This can help foster feelings of success and accomplishment.
Group therapy is very cost effective. Instead of focusing on just one client at a time, the therapist can devote his or her time to a much larger group of people.
Group therapy offers a safe haven. The setting allows people to practice behaviours and actions within the safety and security of the group.
By working in a group, the therapist can see first-hand how each person responds to other people and behaves in social situations. Using this information, the therapist can provide valuable feedback to each client.
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Skype Therapy/Online Therapy
Online Internet Psychotherapy and Counselling via Skype is becoming more popular than ever for the busy person. As a clinic that offers online Therapy, we have noticed a dramatic increase in the number of clients who prefer to have therapy sessions in the comfort of their own homes rather than making their way to a therapist’s office. Individuals find online sessions using Skype or other video conferencing formats to be less intimidating than face-to-face sessions and that they feel generally more relaxed and in charge of the process. This is important, because the purpose of any form of therapy, teaching or coaching is to give you the tools you need to better manage emotional suffering so that you can live a happier and more fulfilled life.
Online therapy can assist you with almost any issue that you have come to encounter, however the primary focus of the Online/Skype therapy is on:
• Anxiety and depression
• Assisting in successful relationships
It is wonderful to experience the effectiveness of Skype therapy sessions for our clients. Although client and therapist may be thousands of miles apart, it feels like you are in the same room. This form of therapy is becoming very popular for people in remote areas or people who are unable to leave home for one reason or another. Interestingly, many of our clients are scattered around Europe, South Africa and the United States. In their case, there are plenty of therapists available, but because they value the manner in which we create a therapeutic relationship they continue to find Skype therapy the most effective means of challenging their difficulties.
Below is a brief guide to help you take part in Skype therapy with us.
As always, if you are experiencing any kind of medical emergency, you should contact your doctor first. Online Therapy is not a substitute for the medical treatment of mental disorders but a tool in assisting you during your period of recovery.
1. Harley Street Psychology offers free email consultation so that you can ask questions about the process. We provide you the opportunity to describe the emotional issues you are struggling with and always want you to feel satisfied with our replies. This will allow you to get a feel for the approach used at Harley Street Psychology and whether it resonates with what you feel you need from us.
2. On behalf of the Clinical Director of Harley Street Psychology LTD, we hope that you will read any written documents compiled by us in order for you to get a good feeling sense about working with us.
3. We believe it is good practice to receive payment at the end of the session rather than before to ensure you are happy with the service being offered by Harley Street Psychology.
4. The attitude of Harley Street Psychology to Online Therapy is to view it as a teaching medium from which you hope to gain certain tools and insights to help you better manage your emotional problems. You should feel that you leave with something of value from every session.
The Process Involved
You can download the software that allows you to make Skype video calls from Skype.com. It is easy to set up and most importantly the service from Skype is free. Most laptops have a built in video-camera and microphone, which makes it very easy. If your computer does not have this, you can purchase a video-camera that connects via the USB port.
We are born to a world where we experience good and bad. However, our social world is structured by being constantly stimulated by the negative song of the news and negative influence of people around us. It is essential to realize that life is a matter of perception where we can look at any marvel that life offers us to instill us with hope and determination to grow as human beings.
A night out anywhere in the world holds with it a marvel of interesting sights and experiences. These experiences allow one the opportunity to observe with ease whether a man has a great degree of integrity or not.
The definition of integrity is the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles. A beautiful phrase to hold in mind is “a gentleman of complete integrity”. Although this is a simple enough definition the words honest and moral are two words, which need to have a conscious and purposeful striving towards before we can get remotely close to its true essence.
A trend that seems to be developing among teenage girls between the ages of 14 – 17 is an inability to process their emotions, which leads them to use self-harm as a means of emotion regulation. What has been noticed is a distinct inability to digest anger and frustration, which needs a much-required outlet.
Society appears to be more focused on the mindfulness revolution, which aims at pacifying one’s over-thinking and tumultuous emotional states.
OCD is an abbreviation for Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. This is a disorder that can manifest at any age, however people who have the disorder will explain that they showed tendencies towards having OCD traits from a young age. There are a number of misconceptions when OCD is thought of. The common mistake is the term OCD is used flippantly to explain an excessive need for tidiness and cleanliness. This disorder in reality has the tendency to morph into very difficult and excessively grotesque variations of behaviour and thinking which can truly disable the individual.
Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) according to the DSMIV (Diagnostic tool to diagnose mental disorders) is characterized by a pervasive pattern of instability of interpersonal relationships and self-image. It is characteristic of marked impulsivity beginning by early adulthood and presents in a variety of contexts. We at Harley Street Psychology have been working with sufferers of BPD since the start of the clinic and it is always fascinating how many therapists stay well clear of dealing with BPD. BPD is one of the most difficult of disorders within the personality disordered spectrum to treat, because once it has developed (and we don’t know the primary causes) it becomes engrained in the individual usually from a very early age and becomes further reconditioned for many years where it feels near impossible to get rid of the symptoms.
There is nothing more frightening for a man than a woman in the throws of an emotional spell. I can just see it, all the men reading this nodding quietly to themselves. Taking this further, the emotions that women display is uncharted territory for most men who have no real idea how to contain and appease this behaviour or response. It can be safely said that all men would like women to just stop when they are on an emotional rampage and reach a point of tranquility and relate in a balanced fashion…
Harley Street Psychology’s Clinical Director Massimo Stocchi discusses the devastating disorder BDD, better known as Body Dysmorphic Disorder. Herein you will find various strategies and clarifications so as to understand the inner workings of BDD.