Low Self-Esteem Psychotherapy and Counselling at Harley Street Psychology™ London

Has Your Confidence Hit an All-Time Low?

Self esteem is a key component to having a positive and healthy self image — it is especially important when we relate to others in the workplace, at home within our families and socially with our friends — any difficult experience in life where we “appear” to have encountered a set-back or failure will impact our self-esteem and furthermore causing you to question your self-worth. Day to day experiences have the potential to impact our self-esteem because we have possibly not been equipped with the correct emotional tools to navigate our way through life. Self-esteem issues may stem from our childhoods and family environment which keeps you stuck in roles that are difficult to break away from.

These roles become familiar and it is easier relating to the world and others from a position of familiarity rather than trying to change and be uncertain of how you will be after. A low self-esteem will often be accompanied and reinforced by a negative internal voice. This is the voice that criticised you and will constantly contradict any positive choices you make in your life. This persistent negative voice will eventually feed into your negative thinking and feel like your life is out of control.

Feelings of failure, worthlessness, uncertainty, a dislike for yourself, heightened anxiety, a constant questioning of oneself, and an inability to be kind to yourself are a few characteristics that accompany low self-esteem. If you are experiencing any of these symptoms we would advise that you call us immediately so we can assist you in eradicating these symptoms for good on 0207 060 5257

Psychotherapy and Counselling for Low Self-Esteem 

Psychotherapy and Counselling will help you explore how your low self-confidence may have evolved from the varied experiences you’ve had in life. In addition it will look at how you have built your varied belief systems which in many ways may be faulty, especially if you are experiencing low self-esteem.

Your therapist will work closely with you in a bespoke manner to identify the most effective tools in helping you overcome low self-esteem. They will offer you a supportive and therapeutic environment and use CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy), NLP (neuro-linguistic programming), and mindfulness to improve your self-image and self-esteem. Through changing our negative interpretations of ourselves and the image we hold of ourselves, we can change how we feel and improve our self-esteem at the same time.

Harley Street Psychology™ Confidence Breakthrough Method

At Harley Street Psychology™, we offer a breakthrough therapy experience where our therapists are trained in the latest CBT, NLP and Mindfulness based therapeutic approaches to boost your self-esteem to new heights.

They will help you:

  • Make sense of the low self-esteem
  • Assist you in understanding the persistent cycles you find yourself in
  • Identify the most empowered ways you can relate to the world and solidify this.
  • Understand any of the underlying causes of your frustration and irritability
  • Illustrate how your thoughts, feelings and behaviours are contributing to the feelings of low self-esteem
  • Improve your self-image, or recreate this if you feel you have lost sight of who you are
  • Boost your assertiveness and general wellbeing

Working collaboratively with your therapist, you will assess your life from every angle, refine your expectations of yourself and others, put into practice daily new patterns of behaviour and thinking to out condition previous “bad habits” and work towards redefining your self image and create the necessary experiences in your life by acting today and not falling into old complacent ways of being.

By Acting Today, You Start Feeling Better Today!!!

We all deserve a sense of inner tranquillity and peace! Call us today and book a session with one of our therapists to tackle your problem of low self-esteem. You don’t have to suffer with this any longer.

Further Reading on Low Self-Esteem:

  • The self esteem workbook. Glenn Schiraldi
  • 10 Days to self-esteem. David Burns
  • 50 mindful steps to self-esteem. Janetti Marotta
  • Healing your emotional self. Beverly Engel

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Anxiety Counselling and Psychotherapy in London

Feeling Anxious, Panicky, Fearful or Tense?

Anxiety is more commonly characterised by increased nervousness and feelings of emotional discomfort throughout the body. What may occur at varied times is the inclusion of bodily sweats, increased heart rate, sweaty palms, a sense of loosing consciousness, a sense of dread, worry about consequences and the future, muscle spasms, hyperventilation, forgetfulness and sheer panic.

We have been taught that anxiety is a “fight” or “flight” response, which we associate with something dangerous in our immediate environment which prompts us to either face up to the situation and “fight” or run away “flight”. This is the general attitude towards explaining anxiety. In not so many words, this is not a good enough explanation in how to understand this bodily and mental occurrence which has such great potential to disarm us and make us panic.

Over the years here at Harley Street Psychology we have noticed that will all the clients that present with anxiety, there is a common characteristic which is seldom addressed by many other professionals. This phenomena is the actual reason why anxiety presents itself and takes such a hold on our thinking and bodies.

If you could picture anxiety representing an emotional cap within our bodies. Underneath this anxiety cap is a whole myriad of unprocessed emotions which we avoid.

We choose to avoid emotions because, emotional pain appears to be more unbearable than physical pain which makes us need anxiety even more than our desire for its removal.

We found that there was an unconscious decision made within the body that it would be safer and somewhat easier to deal with one main emotion (anxiety)at a time instead of a whole range of varied emotions equal in intensity. The body and mind collaborate and arrive at a decision  that prompts us to focus primarily on the anxiety.  This response is quite remarkable because the focus on anxiety comes with the knowledge that we will not die from anxiety or a panic attack–even though during a panic attack it may feel like we are having a heart attack.

Anxiety Counselling and CBT – The Harley Street Psychology™ Method

It is essential to remember that the core function of anxiety is to make us stop anything we are doing which may be causing the anxiety to occur. If we see that the anxiety is actually protecting us from any external pain its obvious that it is quite a useful bodily response.

The problem comes in when we have become so reliant on this anxious response used to protect us from the “dangers” of the world and then realise that this dependency is preventing us from living.

It is important to remind you here that anxiety is not an innate experience/emotion. Instead if we look at the source of anxiety being fear, we only have two innate fears in this world: the fear of falling and the fear of loud noises–all the rest are learnt behaviours.

With this in mind think about how you have conditioned yourself to believe the anxiety and when you go to the source of the anxiety, all you are is AFRAID. Afraid to live. Afraid to experience. Afraid to fail. Afraid to make mistakes. Afraid to be embarrassed. Afraid to get close to people. Afraid to be hurt. AFRAID AFRAID AFRAID.

This only touches the surface of what is behind the anxiety but yet it is to highlight that if you can relate to any of the descriptions discussed then it is vital that you seek the appropriate help. Anxiety is one of the core difficulties that we work with at Harley Street Psychology and if there is any form of fear in your life then you are obviously not living your life to the extent you could be!

Erase Your Anxiety Today. Don’t Wait a Second Longer!!

Our anxiety counsellors at Harley Street Psychology are all equipped extraordinary training in being able to treat anxiety problems of varied presentations.

The services we offer at Harley Street Psychology London include psychotherapy and counselling for anxiety, CBT-based anxiety therapy and anxiety management programmes.

Give us a call today on 0207 060 5257 to erase you anxiety for good.

Further Reading on Anxiety Management and Counselling

  • The complete CBT guide for anxiety: Lee Brosan
  • The Mindfulness and Acceptance Workbook for Anxiety: John Forsyth
  • The Mindful Way through Anxiety: Susan Orsillo

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Panic Attack Treatment

Statistically Proven Psychotherapy Methods That Offer Effective Drug-Free Relief From Panic Attacks. Regain Your Confidence. Face Your Life Without Fear. Free AudioBooks Designed To Dissolve Your Anxiety Forever.

There is a general consensus that one session may be all you need to end the misery of panic attacks… Call Now on 0207 060 5257 for a FREE 20 minute assessment with Harley Street Psychology’s Clinical Director.

We are born with two innate fears in life: the fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. Every other fear we encounter in this day and age is through learned behaviour and repetition. The problem is that the feeling of panic is very real and hindering you from living your life. Through the new and tried and tested methods we use at Harley Street Psychology we are noticing a trend in the immediate reduction of panic attacks in all our clients. These discoveries and techniques have a theoretically informed and proof driven basis for their usage, and simply put “we do not use anything that doesn’t work at Harley Street Psychology”.

Once engaged in the process from session one, you will already be on the path to experiencing a single day without a panic attack, then leading onto a life without any panic. Even living one day without a panic attack may provide you the respite that you have been lacking for a long time. This in essence will open the golden door to your ability to:

  • Face being alone without any irrational fear or anxiety
  • Leave the safety of your home
  • Make any plans away from home such as holidays
  • Improve and strengthen existing and future relationships with loved ones
  • Be at peace with yourself with no sudden fluctuations of anxiety or panic
  • Experience sound and restful sleep without heart palpitations or ruminating on thoughts
  • Sky rocket your self confidence
  • Embracing the day from the second you wake up
  • Having the ability to be social, charismatic, attractive and talkative
  • Feeling confident and comfortable in crowds of people
  • Allowing yourself to be more adventurous and open to new activities
  • Having certainty that you are not doomed and you have the ability to face anything in your future
  • Having total freedom from intrusive thoughts and being in control of your mind
  • Expand your social circle and embrace your new ability to socialise with ease
  • Be assured that you will not be fearful or have a panic attack when speaking publically
  • Save money on the countless bills for medication, anti-anxiolytics and prescription drugs
  • Enjoy mental clarity, a feeling of freedom and a life you’ve always wanted to have

You may be suffering from very real symptoms not diagnosable by your GP to be anything of serious concern, these may include:

Heart palpitations, tightness in your chest, pain when you breathe, dizzy spells, difficulty breathing and a sensation of closing of your throat, hot and cold flushes, feeling disorientated and detached from the reality of life, panic attacks or lightness in your head.

Do you find your life is engulfed with dread, fear and constant anxiety?

Persistent worrying thoughts that may not be rational, unrealistic fears of dying, fear of losing control of your bowels, fear of embarrassing yourself in front of others, fear of losing touch with reality in front of others, fear of losing total control?

Have you sought out help only to be turned away with unhelpful answers leaving you feeling alone and helpless with what you are experiencing?

Britain has only recently noted the severity and importance of dealing appropriately with mental health, and in many instances your own doctor may not know the most beneficial treatment plan for dealing with the anxiety and panic. Friends and family are a form of support but often a dead end in eradicating the problem. It can really seem like there is no one to turn to.

This does not have to be the case! There is immediate help! You need to act now and make that first step!

There does not have to be one day longer where you suffer. You do not have to surrender to the anxiety and panic. No more living in fear. You have the strength and power to beat worry, anxiety, depression and panic attacks for good.

You can regain control of your life and achieve the greatness that lies within you. Become the person you know you really are but have been unable to grow into this person.

Panic attacks erased permanently from your life!

My name is Massimo Stocchi and I am the clinical director and creator of Harley Street Psychology. The Harley Street Psychology Clinic has been a source of great inspiration and positive change for numerous individuals, couples and groups who attend our individual sessions and seminars for various difficulties.

The methods used within Harley Street Psychology to eradicate Panic Attacks and Anxiety have come from years of researching and fine tuning an authentic and no-nonsense approach which hits at the core of the anxiety and panic. Our research is constantly being collected and will form part of a new published book and therapy program.

The system in use has been in development for the past 8 years where there has been a consistent process of refinement to offer a proven formula and programme to help you live a life without anxiety and panic attacks forever. I provide you with the necessary knowledge needed to erase your previous relationship with anxiety and panic attacks from the first session. The system is easy to learn and master in a relaxed and calm environment.

Individuals suffering with anxiety and panic attacks are referred to us from all around the world. Even when they believe they have tried every imaginable cure they are guaranteed to experience a new lease on life.

Fill out your details on the contact form and we will have someone contact you within 2 hours or call now on 0207 060 5257 for a free 20 minute assessment.

Panic Attacks Can Be Easily Resolved

A problem with people who suffer from panic attacks is that they believe so greatly in the process and the existence of the panic attack that they can no longer see any hope or believe that their lives could truly exist without them. 90% of the problem lies in being able to convince you of the simple fact that your life has become tailored to include the anxiety and panic attacks that they are now common sense for you.

A key to pushing you to regain control lies in the way you have ranked anxiety and panic on your list of priorities. By being so focused on its existence and worrying about it 24/7, you are allowing yourself valuable time to create unnecessary habits and reinforce these habits making it harder for the anxiety and panic to leave. 100% of the people that come through Harley Street Psychology’s doors have not been able to unpick their anxiety and panic to the necessary level to truly change the habits and behaviors maintaining its existence.

This is why it is vital that you act on this now and not leave it for another day. We have one opportunity in life to live the life we want and you are squandering it on maintaining a vicious and unhealthy cycle that can be erased forever!!

It is essential to realize that there is no quick fix in life. Think about how much time and energy you have invested in perfecting your anxiety and panic attacks. You have spent an uncountable amount of valuable time on thinking, breathing, tasting and acting on this anxiety. We’ve all hear that we cant teach old dogs new tricks, but this is not true! You may not be able to teach old dogs new tricks linguistically, but once we change your thinking and behaviors all else follows like a charm.


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Growing Trends in Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)

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Growing Trends in OCD

OCD is an abbreviation for Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. This is a disorder that can manifest at any age, however people who have the disorder will explain that they showed tendencies towards having OCD traits from a young age. There are a number of misconceptions when OCD is thought of. The common mistake is the term OCD is used flippantly to explain an excessive need for tidiness and cleanliness. This disorder in reality has the tendency to morph into very difficult and excessively grotesque variations of behaviour and thinking which can truly disable the individual.

If the mind can think it, the body can most certainly manifest it. Variations of the disorder include: catatonic states where the individual is terrified of being contaminated where the individual overrides any ability to walk and move; ritualistic behaviours which can affect breathing and other important bodily functions; hygiene and overall bodily health; pedophilic thinking and extremely destructive thinking patterns to name a few. A primary problem underlying OCD is fear. Add habit into the mix and you find it near impossible to stop the obsessions and compulsions. The reason behind this results from the level of soothing the individual receives from either the obsession or compulsive ritual or behaviour they perform so that their underlying fear does not manifest. This fear is often attached to some type of catastrophic event where the OCD is used as a means of prevention, often becoming wishful thinking.

A basic function found within all human beings is a natural ability to sooth our emotional pain i.e. crying. This process is naturally instilled in us and developed and nurtured by our primary care givers. However, the individual may not know how to self-soothe and instead creates a complex web of beliefs and behaviours which detract from their ability to neutralize the emotional pain. An additional problem is the use of language during our development into adulthood. Instead of naturally maintaining a relationship with our emotions as you will find in all children, we apply language to our means of expression and as this becomes more dominant in our lives, it eventually takes over. We essentially become language and use language as the means of emotional expression. Most people believe that by explaining how angry one is takes away the anger, but in most cases it does nothing but suppress the anger more. Instead, allowing ourselves to connect with the emotion and allow this to come out and then apply language so that we understand the reasons why this is occurring is the most beneficial way of facing emotional turmoil.

A primary component of OCD focused therapy would be learning to self-soothe and to balance out one’s catastrophic thinking and behaving. If the individual has no possibility of self soothing in a functional manner, i.e. through self talk, emotional release and self gratification, then there is a greater likelihood of them developing obsessive compulsive thinking and behaving patterns which will act as the “ritual” to induce a sense of emotional comfort. Although the overall function is to soothe, the individual reinforces this behaviour extensively to the point where it becomes a “common sense” in the body to which they become dependent on.

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There is a cycle that begins to arise for the individual, which locks them into becoming dependent on this type of thinking and behaving leading to ritualizing behaviours. The rituals are immensely forceful that by not engaging with them sets the individual off on a downward spiral of panic until they eventually have a panic attack. In most of the OCD cases that we come in contact with and treat at HSP, there is a great variation between the various triggers that can set someone off into a panic mode. However, there too is an increased overlap in many cases where many common OCD concerns arise. Some of which are as follows:

Fear of death

Fear of contamination

Fear of contaminating others

Fear of being the devil

Fear of being a pedophile

Fear of killing others

Fear of rejection

Fear of hurting others

Fear of cataclysmic events

There is an interplay within all the above variations and what we usually explain is that OCD begins to fill a particular void for the individual. We assist the individual in understanding the various patterns that emerge and how to neutralize and balance out the need or dependency on OCD. This is essential, as many people who suffer with OCD lack psycho-education in the actual problem and its overall function in their lives. This in itself might sound like a strange idea that OCD has a function in ones life. You will soon realize how reliance is developed and the purpose it serves in maintaining a particular balance in your life. Hence why it is so difficult to get rid of.

Our 6 Week OCD Program is a key and sure step in the right direction in the fight for gaining control of your OCD once and for all.

To read more about the structure: http://www.harleystreetpsychology.com/obsessive-compulsive-disorder-ocd-programme/  

Agoraphobia Panic Attack Information

Agoraphobia Panic Attack Information

Agoraphobia is generally considered an anxiety or panic disorder, commonly referred to as the fear of traveling. This fear can range from not being able to travel a few hours away from the home, all the way down to not being able to leave your home all together.  An agoraphobia panic attack is basically an attack that occurs when an agoraphobic attempts to go beyond their “safe” boundaries.

The problem with treating an agoraphobia panic attack is that the only real way to overcome the attack is for the person to attempt to push their limits. This is the reason why many agoraphobics tend to get worse before they get better. It is easy for an agoraphobic to ignore their problem, since all they have to do is not travel beyond their limits but unfortunately while being easy to ignore, agoraphobia also tends to be the most stifling of the symptoms that can arise from chronic panic disorder.

Begin With Baby Steps

The best thing an agoraphobic can do to stem their agoraphobia panic attacks, is to begin taking baby steps. Setting goals to overcome their attacks is the only way an agoraphobic will ever be able to finally master their fears. This process is best done with the help of family and friends, who can help you to make those steps all the while keeping the person assured of their relative safety.

It isn’t completely known what causes agoraphobic panic attacks, or why the panic attacks manifest in this form.  It is suspected that many agoraphobics already had the propensity for being afraid of travel, with many of them being the type that experienced motion sickness before they ever experience panic attacks.

The Unknown

An Agoraphobia panic attack is particularly frustrating to the sufferer themselves.  Mainly because the attack is even less rational then a standard panic attack. Why they experience a fear of traveling beyond a certain distance, or going to a certain place is unknown. But anyone of the numerous anxiety / panic disorders can take root and cause agoraphobia.

Social anxiety can lead to a fear of certain public places, especially grocery stores and other places that have a large gathering of people. On the other hand general panic disorder can cause the panic sufferer to become embarrassed of their own disorder, which leads to a fear of traveling outside and having a panic attack.  It just goes to show the difficulties that are had in identifying and dealing with an agoraphobia panic attack.

Mindfulness Based Experiential Change


Mindfulness practice first arose in Buddhist culture. Tibetan Buddhists saw this as a process which was to be utilised in daily living to still the mind so that the individual practitioner could live in the present moment in their entirety and reap all the benefits for a healthy mind and body. The process of mindfulness means being completely present in one’s body and mind, and in the moment on a daily basis. Being present contrasts our day to day experience of being distracted and engrossed on the future, the past or any day to day disturbance that we may center on.

An unassuming question to ask yourself when doing daily tasks is: am I completely present with the task at hand… In my body and in my mind.

Take eating as a simple example. When was the last time you spent the entire time eating (even a sandwich) being completely present with the task at hand? So present in fact that the experience became so exhilarating that nothing else mattered in the world other than the process you were engaged with… namely eating mindfully.

This is just one illustration of how distracted we can become with life. How disconnected we are with our inner functioning especially on an emotional level. How disjointed and unnatural our thinking and feelings are, and how often we are caught up in the mix of everything and don’t know how to regain a sense of control.

Mindfulness practice is a process that need only take 10 minutes a day to assist in feeling connected with the present moment, becoming aware of thoughts and feelings but not necessarily being distracted or deeply impacted by either to assist you in achieving a life that is invigorated and fueled with meaning the way it should be.

The experiential change through mindfulness group run by Harley Street Psychology LTD hosts a variety of diverse groups and workshops focused around the benefits of mindfulness based practice. One of which is the weekly mindfulness and meditation session which assists individuals in focusing their thoughts and feelings and learning to work with their body to master acceptance of one’s thoughts and emotions so that a very unique and unadulterated state of consciousness can be reached. This state I name nothingness, in which the individual practitioner reaches a heightened state of awareness in which they are able to be unperturbed by thoughts or emotions because they feel more able to observe and notice their thinking and feeling without needing to engage and react.

The intention of this mindfulness group is to realign a common mind body split that occurs in all of us, where we feel detached from the happenings in our bodies and thinking. The mindfulness techniques have constant success with sufferers of depression, anxiety, OCD, varied personality disorders and severe stress related conditions.

Each week is focused on providing new and enriching techniques that can be applied to a busy life and while being practiced during the two hour session, you will be guided to a point of inner tranquility and learn methods that have been tried and tested worldwide. These techniques can be adapted to your busy life and become part of how you live your life in reaching inner peace and feeling more connected to the world in which you live.

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